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Tuesday, August 29, 2006

The Nitty Gritty

Before we got married, Patrick and I spent some time on a couple of occasions with the minister who married us and discussed just about every topic under the sun: family, friends, children, sex, habits, worries, religion, money... And although I didn't get the chance to watch this episode (I wish I had), Oprah had a show titled Lance Armstrong's Ex-Wife: The Truth About Her Marriage. Part of that show concentrated on Questions to Ask Before You Get Married. We covered most of those topics, but what a great list that gets into those nitty gritty details that might be hard but ultimately have to discuss with the person you love and truly want to marry. And because your own ideas, thoughts and desires tend to change over time as you yourself grow and as you both grow in your relationship, I think these questions are great to continually re-address throughout your marriage. Just some thoughts from someone who has been married for almost a year.

Friday, August 18, 2006

Clutter & Mementos

Patrick and I were going to get a 2 bedroom place so that he could have an office for schoolwork but after looking at the Austin apartment market, we decided to stay in our 1 bedroom for at least another year. As nice as it is to stay in once place and not have to move, it's so hard to get motivated to cleaning junk out and getting rid of things. It was a lot easier to clear out piles of stuff when I knew I wouldn't want to move it to another apartment. I mean seriously, do we really need booklets from every retreat we've staffed?? (because combined over the years, that's a lot!) I think I'm just getting less sentimental over paper things.

I do however have a box of all the greeting and RSVP cards we got from our wedding and intend to scrapbook them at some point, but if you look on our fridge we still have both our Wedding and Rehearsal Dinner invitation held there with a magnet. I believe those are supposed to be preserved in a frame or something so that every time the door is opened, they don't go flying off to become playtoys for our kitties. So, I'm guessing that the scrapbook will have to wait until I actually get my stuff together enough to have a framed memento from the happiest day of my life. Wait, scratch that. I take that back, I have two framed mementos, our Marriage License and one of my favorite pictures from our wedding. It's just that everything else is being stored behind Patrick's leather "throne."